Tension

Last night we had Extended Play. I barely got back from the intern tour and got to the church before people started showing up. Although I was very thankful that people came considering we have not had a very good track record over the last few weeks. Between off-site activities, miscommunications and a week that EP was cancelled, I don’t think many people have been sure what is going on.

Fortunately last night went well. We had a smaller crowd, seven including myself, but I think the discussion went really well. We talked about the fall of man, the effects of sin on our world and the redemptive nature of Jesus. It seemed like everyone was tracking with it very well. However, afterward Lee told me about a comment that I did not hear.

One of the people that comes to EP has certain feels for one of my leaders and said something to her that could be considered inappropriate. According to Lee she did not say anything to him about it, and essentially acted like it never happened. While that might not usually be a big deal, there are a few factors that convolute the issue.

First of all, this guy always seems to want to be around her, and she never tries to dissuade his actions, and in some ways almost seems to encourage it. Second, she is married, but her husband rarely if ever comes to EP. When I asked her last night why her husband does not come she said that he is “not an EP-person.” However, Lee informed me later that her husband used to come all the time, but stopped coming after a while.

Furthermore, even after the comment was said last night, my leader and this guy ended up leaving the building together at the end of the night and talking in her car for at least 15 minutes. While I do not know what the conversation was about yet, it increases the suspicious nature of the entire situation.

Where everything becomes difficult is in my position as the leader. How should I handle this situation? Should I talk to the girl, in which case is it more or less beneficial to have either Amanda or another leader there with me? Or should I talk to the guy about what he said and try to stop the situation there? Or should I try to talk to her husband and get a feel from him on how their marriage is going? However, whatever I decide I think I first need to talk with Ed and Melanie about it and see what they have to say.